As controversial as it is to say, I really don’t buy into the whole concept of feminism.
I understand people have died to achieve equal rights over the course of history, but I’m talking about everything since then. Modern feminism.
I am very grateful, and extremely thankful that people have in the past and still do feel so passionate about certain things, such as Votes For Women, but I think other people jump on the band wagon and take it too far.
(Disclaimer: Get ready to be blown away by a whole bunch of sexism.)
I agree wholeheartedly that women should be able to contribute to society, and we should have a say in who leads us politically, etc, but I don’t agree with women burning their bras, and the other extremes feminism has gone to.
Feminism is a massive subject to tackle, and I am just expressing my personal, slightly unformed, opinion here, so please, if you disagree with me, discuss it in the comments, help me to understand your point of view, and it will help me to form my opinion and thoughts on the subject.
I am all for women being equal to men in as much as we are all God’s children, He made us out of His love for us, and therefore we are equal in His eyes. However, He made us different. Very different. Extremely different.
Seriously, just look in a mirror to figure that one out.
We have different strengths, we have different personalities, we have different likes and hobbies, we are completely different.
I guess at this point you could argue that all women and men are different to each other as well, having their own strengths, personalities, likes, and hobbies. Which we do, and that is why the world works.
When people talk about how women should be equal to men in business, my mind jumps straight to boardrooms, parliament, and offices. If I actually broaden my range of thought to other types of work, I realise how stupid it is to be equal in business. What if your business is manual labour? A tree surgeon for instance. There is no way that God created women to be climbing up trees in seconds with saws on her back to be hacking off branches. I know we have the capability to do it, but it doesn’t mean that we should.
I think feminism has actually become an almost glamorous subject to talk about and we don’t fully understand it any more. It’s been Hollywoodised, so it’s hard to talk about feminism now when the original feminist movement has done so much for us. So don’t get me wrong, I am really not tarring all feminists with the same brush here. I’m talking about the modern stance of women thinking “we don’t need men”, and “I can do everything a man can do”.
I agree, like I said above, we are totally capable of doing everything a man can do. We can lift weights to build up our muscles, we can train in pretty much every area to do what a man can do. We can even pee standing up with the invention of the she-wee.
I think that is the perfect example of women gone mad. Just ask yourself the question: WHY?
Why would you want to stand up to pee? So that you can be in the army? Maybe God didn’t design you to be there. So that you can climb cold snowy mountains? Maybe God didn’t design you to be there.
Some people do have passions for these things, and in that case, go for it. God created you to be happy at the end of it all, so if peeing standing up (sorry that I have chosen that as my focus these last few paragraphs) is something you need to do to reach your goal, then I won’t stand in your way.
The flip side of all this modern feminism is women moaning that there are no gentlemen any more (yes, I myself am guilty of this one). Why is this? Because we have ripped it away from them.
In saying that we want to be equal to men, we have chosen to be equal to them in everything. That means the things we liked too.
When was the last time a man held a door open for you? Or let you go through a door first? My guess is that your answer doesn’t make men look too good.
I like chivalry in a man. I think it’s what makes a man a man. Having that caring side that shows respect to a woman. I wholeheartedly blame women for this. Men don’t see the need to do all those gentlemanly things any more and if they do they sand a good chance of being accused of being sexist.
God created us to be a support to man. He created Adam and didn’t think about Eve until later. When it was clear that there was no other animal on Earth suitable as a partner for him, God created Eve, the perfect counterpart to man. To make it really clear that Eve was FOR Adam, God created Eve FROM Adam.
We are here in a supporting role. Which is not derogatory, and not an after-thought. God knew what He was doing. At the Oscars, it’s no better to receive an award for Leading Actress than it is to get Best Supporting Actress. It’s still an Oscar!
Man was made to create and to work, woman was made to make sure man was ok. That’s the most important role that there is. If man doesn’t respect woman, how can he then expect her to support him in his every day life?
We need each other. And we each have our role to play. Neither can survive without the other.
Women need to realise what they are doing when they say they don’t need a man. It’s disrespecting God, because it’s like saying what He did was wrong, and our plans are better. Which they never are.
God did make us to be awesome. He put each of us on this Earth so that we can excel, that we can enjoy what He has gifted us in, and that we can love. We need to accept those gifts with both hands and put God’s glory on display and honour Him in our relationships. That means respecting each other, appreciating our differences, and amplifying each others strengths.
It’s not easy, because, when you are single, (which is another gift from God, but a totally different subject) you have to do things by yourself, and there are some things that you would like to ask a man to do, but when you no longer live with your dad, you learn to do yourself. I personally love DIY, and I really enjoy building furniture. It’s like a man being able to cook. You have to be able to do things that are usually seen as gender-specific roles, because you can’t always depend on someone else. That’s where it’s hard to draw the line, but I think that’s something that you figure out when you have to.
So, to conclude this very long blog, and thanks for sticking with me, I am really very grateful for what women in the past have sacrificed so that I can sit here at my laptop today in my flat that I share with two other girls and write an opinion blog about a subject so controversial, on my day off from job and not suffer any negative consequences as a result of it.
However, it’s the women that use the term feminism to make it ok to say that men are useless and irrelevant that need a shake. Men are really important in society, just as women are, and feminism isn’t about women ruling everything, it’s about being listened to, and respected. In turn we have to give respect back to men, and hope that one day they will realise that this has all gone a bit too far, that we do need them, and that being a gentleman is actually really important, even though it’s not the done thing these days.